Actress Maria Bello came out over the weekend in an essay she wrote for the New York Times.
Titled “Coming Out as a Modern Family,” the Prisoners star, 46, recalls how she told her 12-year-old son, Jackson, from her previous relationship with TV executive Dan McDermott, that she’s gay and involved in a relationship with a woman named Clare.
Jackson, being a curious pre-teen, questioned his mom one day about her romantic status. Admitting she had been “anticipating and dreading” this conversation for months, she explains, “He was right; I was with someone romantically and I hadn’t told him. I had become involved with a woman who was my best friend, and, as it happens, a person who is like a godmother to my son.”
Maria, who’s best known for her work in Coyote Ugly and the Grown Ups films, recounts her history of relationships in the piece. She shares that she began to think of Clare romantically while gardening in her California home one day. After seeing a pic of the pair so happy together on New Year’s Eve, she became smitten.
“We had an immediate connection but didn’t think of it as romantic or sexual,” Maria writes. “She was one of the most beautiful, charming, brilliant and funny people I had ever met, but it didn’t occur to me, until that soul-searching moment in my garden, that we could perhaps choose to love each other romantically.”
When she finally made the decision to tell her son, she was surprised by his response.
“He looked at me for what seemed like an eternity and then broke into a huge, warm smile,” she shares. “‘Mom, love is love, whatever you are,’ he said with wisdom beyond his years.”
And she agrees fully with her wise Jackson.
“So I would like to consider myself a ‘whatever,’ as Jackson said. Whomever I love, however I love them, whether they sleep in my bed or not, or whether I do homework with them or share a child with them, ‘love is love,’” says Maria. “And I love our modern family.”
She signs off, “Maybe, in the end, a modern family is just a more honest family.”
Giving thanks for my modern family. Happy thanksgiving for whatever kind of family you have. @nytimes pic.twitter.com/Mty9FPNHh4— maria bello (@mariabello) <a href="https://twitter.com/mariabello/statuses/406674501301055488">November 30, 2013
Giving thanks for my modern family. Happy thanksgiving for whatever kind of family you have. @nytimes pic.twitter.com/Mty9FPNHh4
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