Things are getting serious for Ben Affleck and his girlfriend Lindsay Shookus! His divorce from wife Jennifer Garner isn’t finalized yet, but sources are revealing exclusively to Life & Style that the couple is taking their relationship to the next level.

Ben, 45, and Lindsay, 37, are moving in together — even though the actor’s closest friends are urging him to go back to rehab. “Ben and Lindsay have decided to move in together,” an insider says. “A lot of his friends think it’s too soon.” The couple is looking for a place in NYC, where Lindsay works as a producer for SNL.

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Lindsay also co-parents her daughter with ex-husband Kevin Miller in the Big Apple, and Ben will make sure to keep a place in LA so he can be close to his three kids, Violet, 11, Seraphina, 8, and Samuel, 5. “Ben will be bi-coastal,” the source adds. “It was his idea.”

Recently, Ben has been spotted at addiction center Refuge Recovery with his girlfriend, but it might not be enough. He was spotted drinking whiskey and Coke at an Emmy’s afterparty despite the fact that he has completed two stints in rehab. “He is now worse than ever,” says an insider, adding that some people closest to Ben “are begging him to back to rehab and get serious treatment.” But Ben has been resisting.

“He believes he can stop drinking at any time,” explains the source, “and that he can handle himself just fine.” Along with drinking and partying alongside him, Lindsay also stood by her man when he was accused by former TRL host Hilarie Burton of sexual harassment amid the Harvey Weinstein scandal. Ben has since issued an apology.

“I acted inappropriately toward Ms. Burton and I sincerely apologize,” he tweeted. But how does his estranged wife feel about his decision to move in with Lindsay and bring her around their kids? Jen, 45, doesn’t care. “Ben asked Jen if it would be OK if he brought Lindsay to the kids’ school events,” an insider previously told LIfe & Style. “Jen told him she had absolutely no issue with it.”

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