Happy wife, happy life? Jill Duggar got all sorts of NSFW in a blog post shared on Monday, June 3. The former Counting On star went into detail about her marriage to Derick Dillard and how they keep the spark alive. Spoiler alert: Have lots of sex.

Under a section titled, “Here are some ways we can love our husbands” on the Dillard Family Blog, the 28-year-old raunchily revealed, “Have sex often! You both need this time together regularly (3-4 times a week is a good start. lol). And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate. Let your spouse know that you’re always available.”

She continued, “Guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone. Be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting! (Philippians 2:3-4; 1 Corinthians 7:5) If you’re struggling with sex with your spouse, GET HELP! See a doctor and/or licensed counselor and don’t be afraid to get second opinions!”

One fan, in particular, loved the message. “This is cute and so candid!! Have Derick do a ways to love your wife version,” they suggested in a comment on her post. In response, Jill wrote, “Haha I’ll have to mention it to him!”

Another, however, wasn’t so sure. “It seems very unhealthy to me that some women are taught that sex is about a mans needs,” they said. “Women love sex too, woman have fantasies and desires just as much as men. Are they taught about how to please their wife sexually? I’m guessing no. When sex is prioritized according to the man’s needs it instantly becomes about power and dominance. Not being equal.”

This isn’t the first time a Duggar got candid about their sex life. Back in 2014, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar spilled the secrets to their long-lasting relationship in a Today interview timed around Valentine’s Day, and yes, they talked about their intimate moments.

“In your marriage, there will be times you’re going to be very exhausted,” Michelle, now 52, said at the time. “Your hubby comes home after a hard day’s work, you get the baby to bed and he is going to be looking forward to that time with you. Be available. Anyone can fix him lunch, but only one person can meet that physical need of love that he has, and you always need to be available when he calls.'” (In case there was any doubt, Today even explicitly specified Michelle was talking about sex.)

As for how Jill makes sure she and her man are ~fully~ satisfied? “Give at least a six-second kiss when coming and going,” and “get new lingerie as a surprise gift for birthdays, holidays, vacations or whenever!” she wrote.

Welp. (Sorry, JB)!

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