Things are getting ugly. Ben Affleck is no longer hiding his relationship with girlfriend Lindsay Shookus — and Jennifer Garner has hit a breaking point. Two years after the couple filed for divorce, sources are revealing exclusively to Life & Style that Jen is hurt and humiliated by Ben's very public romance.

“Jen’s never been about getting retribution,” says a second insider. “That’s not her style. But Ben’s insensitive actions have changed her.” The Elektra actress is finally realizing, "she could never really trust Ben," explains the insider.

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Ben and Lindsay, a producer at SNL, have been getting very close lately. The duo was spotted enjoying a meal at Beech Street Cafe in Pacific Palisades, Calif., and "looking very happy" on July 10. But multiple sources have confirmed to Life & Style that their romance began years ago. According to In Touch, an eyewitness saw them getting cozy at a NYC hotel back in 2012.

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At the time of their split, Jen, 45, opened up to Vanity Fair and revealed that Ben, 44, was still the love of her life. "I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him,” she said. “And I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again."

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She continued, "You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy."

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Today, Jen is determined to keep her split from Ben friendly as not to negatively affect their kids, Violet, 11, Seraphina, 8, and Samuel, 5. However, she is thinking about getting tougher in their divorce negotiations since Ben decided to ice her out. "She’s so mad,” adds the insider. “She told friends, ‘Ben’s going to pay.’”

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