She’s seeing the other side. Jersey Shore star Ronnie Ortiz-Magro‘s on-again girlfriend, Jen Harley, took to her Instagram Stories to share some pretty introspective thoughts on July 20 — ones that touch on needing “forgiveness” amid her tumultuous relationship with the reality star. The 31-year-old seems to be thinking about the couple’s past and contemplating their future. Scroll through the gallery below to see what Jen had to say about her and Ronnie’s relationship.
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The blonde babe definitely didn’t mince words when it came to her feelings, but she did get a little help from someone who said it first. “Most ppl [don’t] want to hear this, but real relationships that last involve a lot of forgiveness,” an account called @okay.qween wrote in a post that Jen added to her Stories, according to Us Weekly.
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“You have to accept the fact that your partner [isn’t] perfect & will hurt you, disappoint you, & upset you. You have to figure out if you’re willing to go thru ups & downs with them,” concluded the post alluding to daughter Ariana Sky‘s dad.
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The honesty here is really refreshing — especially since the couple recently decided to give their relationship another shot after breaking up back in January.
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After a 2018 full of alleged assaults, arrests and tears, it seems as though the couple is on their way to better days. “Right now, things are going good,” Ronnie, 33, told the outlet in early July.
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“I started just focusing on myself and stopped worrying about what other people wanted from me, and what I want for myself,” he continued. “So, right now, things are good.” We’re glad to hear it, considering back in February, he revealed a month-long rehab stint to Us.
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“If I’m not taking care of myself, I can’t take care of my daughter. I can’t take care of my family. That’s something that I’ve always thrived off of,” he said of his decision to take the time he needed to heal.
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Naturally, Ronnie’s little girl would be a huge part of this decision. “That little girl is like my guardian angel. I say to this day, she saved my life,” he continued. “I think, without her, I don’t think I would’ve taken this step, because what would I have to lose?”
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The Jersey Shore Family Vacation star spent 30 days at HeadWaters at Origins treatment center in Florida working through personal struggles and issues in an effort to be better for his child — and himself.
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“I’m a father. I’m a role model. I have to remember that. She’s getting older. She’s not getting younger. She’s getting older, and she’s getting smarter and smarter,” the MTV alum admitted.
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Believe it or not, Ronnie actually wants to do something really mature about this situation: reveal it to his daughter when she’s older.
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“I feel like it’s something that she needs to know,” he explained his reasoning. “I’m going to be very open with her when she grows up. I want us to have that friendship.”
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“I want her to be able to come talk to me. Also a reason why I did this [was] because I want to be able to listen to people and be able to not react,” he continued. “I want her to be like, ‘OK, well, I can talk to my father about this. I can tell him this without him getting crazy like most dads do.’ I pray that we do have that bond when she gets older.”
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At the time, he wasn’t exactly Jen’s biggest fan, but also acknowledged that they would be on this journey together for life — as a couple or not.
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“She’s always going to be the mother of my child, at the end of the day,” the reality star spoke on his chaotic relationship with his baby mama. “All I can do is control myself. I can’t control her.”
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However, it seems as though Jen now understands their relationship a little bit better and wants to use those tools to make things flourish between the couple and their family. At least, that’s what Instagram makes it seem like.
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At the end of the day, if these two can make things work for their daughter and find their spark again, we’re all for it. We love to see Jen turning over a new leaf!