You hear it all the time: be body positive! It’s 2019, y’all, and we know that it’s important to show respect for your body and the bodies of others, but sometimes that’s easier said than done. If you’re still trying to figure out how to love the skin you’re in, these badass influencers have some amazing tips to get started! Scroll through the gallery below to see what Tess Holliday, Mellissa Molinaro, and more stars had to say.
Sarah Stage has literally become famous for staying super fit throughout her pregnancies, and while that obviously deserves major props, many people have attacked her for it. “I’m constantly being ridiculed about my body,” she told Life & Style exclusively. So to stay positive, she focuses on all she has achieved. “I’ve worked hard after both pregnancies to stay fit and healthy, and I’m so proud of my strength and strong mindset.”
“The internet can be harsh but I’m so focused on being the best for myself and my family,” she continued. “My advice to anyone being picked on is to start the year focused on yourself and your personal goals.” Learn more of Sarah’s tips by picking up her ebook!
“Take inventory of all the media you’re consuming and how it affects your mindset,” suggested body positive model Alex Michael May. “Unfollow accounts that leave you feeling less-than on social media, and unsubscribe to that email list of the clothing line or brand that has you comparing your body endlessly to seemingly-perfect airbrushed models. On the flip side, find accounts, brands and media that represents beauty that is diverse, inclusive, and even find a few public figures to follow that look like you NOW, not in some fantasy land (because sorry, babes! You can’t grow 6 inches overnight or change your hair texture but you CAN fall in love with your own NATURAL beauty!)”
4. Make an Effort to Look for Beauty in Yourself and Others
“Challenge yourself to find beauty in yourself and others every day,” the blonde stunner continued. “Find just one thing, however small, that you love about yourself and focus on that to begin. When you can wholly accept that, find another and continue the process. When you’re out and about, catch yourself in comparative and judgemental inner-dialogue or conversation. Instead, choose one thing about that person that is beautiful and begin to shift your perspective.” We love that idea!
Sometimes you don’t realize how rude you’re being … to yourself! “Take a moment to actually listen to that voice in yourhead — chances are the tone is anything but kind and gentle,” Alex continued. “How would you talk to your friend, sister, daughter? Make it a goal to stop and reframe any self-deprecating comment that pops into your brain and you’ll have a whole new script — one that uplifts you and doesn’t tear you down. Our thoughts become our actions that shape our reality.”
Margot Meanie, who boasts over 50k followers on Instagram, admits it might take a while to truly transition to a body-posi mindset. “When it comes to body positivity, sometimes the jump in thought processes is too much for some people, how can you all of a sudden love something you’ve hated for so long?” she told Life & Style exclusively. “Body positivity is a journey, not a destination, and to get on that path it’s perfectly okay to stop in body neutral territory, where you don’t have to love every aspect of yourself, but you certainly don’t need to hate it either.”
“Some exercises to help change your mindset would be to tailor your social media feeds, add fashion bloggers of varying sizes, shapes and backgrounds, add body positive thinkers, remove anyone that makes you feel bad about yourself,” she continued. “Remind yourself that *you* are in control of the images you take in, you don’t have to be subject to what the mainstream outputs. By tailoring and diversifying your feed you minimize what the beauty and fashion industries get to tell you and you start celebrating how beauty comes in so many forms.”
“Remember that loving yourself takes time,” says stunning model Tess Holliday. “It’s not an easy road, but it’s one worth traveling down. Everyone is on their own journey with loving themselves and it’s important to be understanding of that.”
“A lot of my women followers have DM’d asking me how to deal with pregnancy image issues,” said Instagrammer Melissa Molinaro. “This is a real fear for a lot of women seeing that our bodies go through so many changes in 9 months. Instead of focusing on your weight, concentrate on your health and fitness, which will be good for both you and your baby-to-be.”
“Think about the beautiful life you are creating inside of you and know how lucky you are to have this miracle,” she said. “My pregnancy made me feel empowered and I 150 percent embraced it. Belly out and all! If I wore things that made me look frumpy I felt that way. Show off your curves and that beautiful baby bump!”
“I never got hung up on weighing myself or how much I have gained during my pregnancy,” she continued. “My goal was to eat as healthy as I could for the both of us and maintain my weekly workouts as much as I could. I owe a lot to what I was doing before my pregnancy. And if you don’t know where to start in the gym check out my POWER BOOTY program great for all levels. Follow me for more fitness and lifestyle motivation!”