There’s been nonstop talk about Selena Gomez‘s self-love single “Lose You to Love Me” since she dropped it on Wednesday, October 23. While the song is new for fans, the 27-year-old revealed she actually wrote it a while ago, which was around the time she and Justin Bieber called it quits for good. A now happier Selena got candid about how the process came to be during her On Air With Ryan Seacrest interview on Thursday, October 24.

“More than anything I feel a sense of relief,” Selena divulged when asked about releasing music again. “It’s been four years since I’ve been working on this album. It’s actually perfect timing because I was going to release it two years ago. None of the words that I’m speaking would have existed so taking a moment to actually feel the feelings that I’ve gone through is just … I don’t know. I’m just so grateful that it’s out.”

She continued, “It’s weird because I wrote the song over a year ago — ‘Lose You to Love Me.’ It’s like I feel completely different from when I wrote it, so it’s such an interesting thing.” While Selena hasn’t flat out said the song is about her ex-boyfriend, the lyrics speak for themselves. In the single, Selena sings: “In two months, you replaced us/ Like it was easy,” which fits the timeline of when the former flames broke up and Justin moved on with his now-wife, Hailey Baldwin.

Selena and Justin were officially over in May 2018, and by July 2018, he asked Hailey to marry him. Selena said that there’s no chance she would’ve released the song during that time. “It took me a long time to get through it,” she added. “Now it’s fine. Like, I’m smiling. It’s so great.”

Ryan inserted himself in the pop star’s situation and confessed that the “two months” lyric spoke to him because “having to see someone with someone else so fast” can be tougher than the actual breakup itself. The pop singer responded in the best way.

Selena Gomez Wrote Lose You to Love Me After Justin Bieber Split
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“I’m really grateful because I’ve actually experienced that a million times before,” she admitted. “That’s the unfortunate part about what I do. It’s all very real to me, and I’m sure it’s just entertainment for other people, but I think I had become numb to it and it would be stupid of me if I didn’t acknowledge what I had felt ’cause it would be inauthentic and that’s everything I claim to be and do.”

In addition to “Lose You to Love Me,” the brunette beauty also dropped a self-empowerment single called “Look at Her Now,” which is more fitting to how she’s feeling these days. Yes, girl!