It was shocking when news broke about Bachelor Nation alum Amanda Stanton‘s split from her longtime boyfriend, Bobby Jacobs, on April 5. Fans couldn’t believe the two decided to part ways since they were in the process of moving into a new place together and Amanda even admitted that she was hoping to get engaged this year. The Bachelor in Paradise alum answered all these questions and more on Instagram, keep scrolling to find out more!
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She’s Doing OK
“First of all, I want to let y’all know I am totally fine,” the 29-year-old assured fans on her Instagram story before diving into details.
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It’s all True
“I wanted to confirm — just because it’s already been confirmed — but I wanted you guys to hear it from me that yes, Bobby and I broke up,” she admitted. Her ex posted about the news on Instagram and made it clear that there was no foul play. He commented to a fan, “There was no cheating. … I’d always be there for the girls and I’ve voiced that many a time. Coming from having a deadbeat dad, I’ve chosen to live my life nothing like him. They touched my heart and vice versa. No matter what, I’ll always be around for them.”
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All About Her Kids
“First and foremost, I want to clear the air about my kids,” Amanda continued in her video. “My kids know, no matter what, they are always my number one priority. Always. I remind them that every single day.” She shares two children with her ex-husband, Nick Buonfiglio — Kinsley, 7, and Charlie, 5.
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Incorrect Assumptions
The reality starlet wanted to clear the air of any misunderstandings. She said, “They never feel like I’m choosing a guy over them, and that’s the silliest assumption about me that I’ve ever heard.”
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No Need to Worry
She added, “They’re the happiest, sweetest, most loved kids in the entire world. So, no one needs to worry about that. I’m sure that’s not going to stop the speculation but it doesn’t bother me because I know that.”
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Not Exactly Mutual
It doesn’t sound like the decision to break up was Amanda’s choice. “Secondly … I was completely blindsided [by the breakup] and it just happened very suddenly,” she divulged.
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They’re all Good
However, that doesn’t mean she feels any saltiness towards her ex. She continued, “Before I get into it, Bobby didn’t do anything wrong, so don’t go hating on him for it. Yes, I was surprised, but it’s OK.”
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Still Bummed That It’s Over
Sadly, she revealed that she thought them moving into their new Laguna Beach home together was a stepping stone to getting engaged. “We had a great relationship, it wasn’t toxic,” she added. “It was actually the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. He was my best friend, I was super happy and that was not fake.”
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Shocking Split and Surprise Announcement
“I was definitely surprised and shocked and it happened really fast,” she said. The former Bachelor contestant also admitted that they never decided how they were going to address to split. She was surprised when he posted about it on Instagram because she wasn’t ready to talk about it at that point.
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Wasn’t Fully in It
She explained, “I was surprised but, at the end of the day, people should do what makes them happy and people are allowed to change their minds. If you have doubts about somebody or you’re not feeling it, I respect the decision to break up with them and not lead them on because eventually, that’s going to happen.”
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Onward and Upward
“I’m glad he didn’t waste any more of my time,” she dished. “Me and the girls are going to keep the house we moved into.”
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Clean Break
Don’t plan on a reconciliation anytime soon (or ever). “I personally don’t believe in breaking up and getting back together,” Amanda confessed. “It’s something that I told him. I just don’t think it works out. I think if you break up with someone, you break up for a reason and 99 percent of the time when you get back together with someone after breaking up I don’t think it works out.”
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A Little Insight
She noted, “I also don’t know how I would be able to get back in a relationship where I thought things were going great and then it suddenly ended. I would just constantly worry, even when I thought things were going good, I would just worry. So, that’s not something that’s going to happen.”
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Dealing With It
Although she admitted that she’s “cried a lot,” Amanda promised fans that she’s “OK” and “has a lot to be grateful for.”
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Not What It Looks Like
Right after news broke, Amanda was seen on social media hanging out at the pool with friends. However, she wants followers to know that her Vegas getaway and upcoming Coachella trip was pre-planned and Bobby was “supposed to come to both of them.” When they split she “decided to bring a friend instead and just make the most of it.”
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Time for Herself
Those trips look ultra glam but that’s not how the starlet plans on living her day-to-day life. “I am planning on spending a lot of time with my kids, my family, people that love me. Focus a lot on myself and my career. I’m not trying to jump back into dating,” she said.
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Don’t Believe Everything You See on Instagram
She continued, “I wanted to clarify how I was handling it because I know it may look one way on social media but I am trying to handle this the healthiest best way that I can … Going out and partying is not the right way to handle a break up.”
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Driving the Point Home
“I don’t even party … It might seem like it but it couldn’t be farther from the truth,” she wrote in a caption on the video just to be crystal clear.
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New Year, New Her
The starlet turned 29 on April 9. After the tumultuous month she’s had with her public split and being harassed by a hacker, she dished that she was looking forward to spending her big day with her family.
