You tell ’em, girl! During an exclusive sneak peek of Marriage Boot Camp Reality Stars, Aubrey O’Day finally confronts her issues with her ex-boyfriend Paul “DJ Pauly D” DelVecchio. Granted, the Jersey Shore star wasn’t present for her powerful moment — but with Dr. Ish and Dr. V coaching her, the former Danity Kane singer had a serious breakthrough. 

On the subject of reconciling their differences, Aubrey declared that she doesn’t want Pauly to come back to the house — the 38-year-old walked out during the previous episode — unless he wants to come back to the house on his own. That’s when Dr. Ish had to get real. “You and Pauly only want to do a thing if the other one wants to do a thing — do you want him back or not?” he asked. 

“I don’t want a man back that’s going to abandon me every time I say how I feel,” Aubrey replied. “Now that’s a real answer!” Dr. Ish exclaimed. ICYMI: Aubrey and Pauly dated for over a year before calling it quits in July 2017. E! News reported at the time that the duo decided to pull the plug on their relationship because of their conflicting views about marriage.

“They broke up,” an insider told the outlet. “Pauly is the one that broke up with Aubrey. She was pressuring him to get a ring, and he was not there yet. They are done. He hopes to remain friends with her, [but] she is pretty upset.” The couple met while filming E!’s reality series Famously Single — and it seemed that shortly thereafter they were ready to go the distance. 

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“We’re looking forward to the next steps,” Pauly D revealed just one month before their split. “She’s the one for me, so I’m looking forward to the next steps and waiting for the right moment to make all that happen.” Hmmm, we wonder if these two former flames will ever be able to get back to that place in their relationship. Here’s hoping! 

Be sure to catch new episodes of Marriage Boot Camp Reality Stars every Friday night at 9 PM EST on WE tv.