Drew Barrymore sounds pretty philosophical — and self-deprecating — when she talks about why her nearly four-year marriage to Will Kopelman ended, just like all her other relationships.

She says it was her best friend and business partner, Nancy Juvonen (who is also Jimmy Fallon‘s wife), who got her to see the light.

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Drew Barrymore and Will Kopelman.

“I’d go to her about relationship advice and I’d be like, ‘I just don’t understand why this keeps happening… I mean, this is exactly what happened last time. It’s just like every single time,'” Drew recently told Good Housekeeping. “She’s like, ‘I did notice that there’s a common denominator problem in all of your relationships and I’d like to identify it right now.’ And I’m like, ‘What!? I’ve been waiting! Show me the light!’ She’s like, ‘It’s you.'”

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Former child star Drew, 41, and Will, an art consultant, announced they were splitting up earlier this month. The couple have two young daughters together, Olive, 3, and Frankie, 2.

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Drew Barrymore with daughters Olive and Frankie.

“Sadly, our family is separating legally, although we do not feel this takes away from us being a family,” Drew and Will said in a joint statement to Us Weekly. “Divorce might make one feel like a failure, but eventually you start to find grace in the idea that life goes on.”

Though we’re still bummed that Drew and Will couldn’t make things work, we’re glad to see she has a sense of humor about it all!