Friendly exes? Vanderpump Rules star Tom Schwartz said he and ex-wife Katie Maloney have an “incredible friendship” following their split. 

The pair, who legally wed in July 2019, confirmed their split on March 22, 2022, when Katie officially filed for divorce. However, they have been spotted hanging out on a few occasions and were even living together in their shared Los Angeles home until June following their split.

To learn more about where the reality TV couple stands today, keep reading. 

When did Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz meet?

Former Vanderpump Rules star Kristen Doute introduced the pair two years before the show hit airwaves in 2013.

“He had a girl with him, that was the funny part was that finally, I’m meeting this guy that supposedly wants to meet me, that’s so perfect for me, and he’s got a girl with him,” Katie recalled of their meet-cute in a 2017 interview with Bravo’s Daily Dish.

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“The very first night there was no spark,” Tom, who goes by Schwartz, chimed in. “But the second night I was introduced to her and given a little backstory, that’s when it clicked.”

According to the couple, their first “official” date was a Vampire Weekend concert. “It was romantic but fun,” Schwartz assured.

When did Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz get married?

Technically speaking, Katie and Schwartz’s marriage wasn’t legal until July 2019. However, they did have a wedding in August 2016 that aired on Bravo.

“The big talk around the wedding was that there was this rumor that maybe Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz could possibly not be married because they might have done their paperwork wrong,” their longtime friend Lance Bass let slip during a 2019 interview on the “Bleav in Reality Bytes With Rob Evers” podcast.

Eventually, the former boybander apologized for spilling the beans. “A lot of times, people forget that I’ve been in entertainment news for the last 15 years. So, you know, when there are pieces of nuggets out there, I’m going to talk about it,” Lance said in a later interview. “I didn’t know it was a secret.”

Why do Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz call each other ‘Bubba’?

As Vanderpump Rules viewers know all too well, Katie and Schwartz are big fans of the pet name.

“Bubba started from babe. And then it went from Babe to Baby to Bebe … to Bub to Bubs to Bubba,” Katie previously told Bravo. “And then Bubba, it just sort of stuck,” Schwartz echoed. “It felt right without thinking about it too much or dissecting it.”

Do Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz have kids?

During their time together, Katie and Tom expressed interest in starting a family but did not have any kids together.

“Without going into too much detail, me and Katie, we do want to have kids,” Schwartz told People in May 2021. “As far as the timeline, I’m still noncommittal, but I’m on the record — it’s official, we do want to have kids, and I love kids.”

Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz hung out after splitting

On March 19, four days after announcing their split, Tom shared a snap of Katie sipping a dark red fruity drink via his Instagram Stories, which Katie reshared to hers. “It’s all good,” she captioned the photo that day.

They also both attended good friend Stassi Schroeder‘s wedding to Beau Clark in Italy in May.

When did Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz break up?

Tom shared a lengthy statement via Instagram confirming the pair’s split on March 15. “Well, this sucks. How am I supposed to capture 12 years of love in a f–king canned Instagram caption. What picture am I supposed to use? Is there a go-to break up font?” he began.

“Wanted to clear the air on some rumors floating around. Katie and I are separating,” Tom continued.  I’m not quite ready to use the ‘D’ word because it’s too painful. Yes, my heart aches but I’ll be OK. Not looking to evoke any sympathy here. I’m not the victim. Not gonna write too sad a song. Fully respect Katie’s decision and we’ve had healthy, productive conversations about it. It would be far sadder if she decided to stay with me whilst not happy.”

The restaurant owner made it clear, though, that there was no bad blood between them. “She taught me so much about love and being a better partner,” Tom wrote. “It’s hard not to feel like a statistic. Another failed marriage. I don’t look at it as a failure. As sad as I am, still happy to say there’s no anger or bitterness. Zero. Still so much love for you @musickillskate. And your family.”

Katie later reflected on her split from her fellow VPR costar in an episode of the “We Met At Acme” podcast on Sunday, April 10, opening up about what led to their divorce.

“I had been expressing my feelings, where I felt that I was not getting my needs met and where I thought I was being hurt by some of the behavior,” Katie shared. “I don’t think he understood or resonated or agreed.”

What Have Katie and Tom said since the split?

During the episode, Katie recalled how when she ultimately told Tom she wasn’t happy, he didn’t make any efforts to fix things. “He just didn’t really do anything … I think he thought that I was just gonna get over it or something,” she said.

She went on to share that weeks had passed and she still hadn’t seen any sort of understanding from Tom about her discontentment with their relationship, saying, “I decided that I had wanted to get a divorce.”

While Katie admitted that she “really thought that we were gonna make it work,” she said the issues in their relationship and her efforts to fix her marriage caused her mental health to suffer. 

“I’ve been bogged down and putting all of my energy into this relationship and when I’m not getting my needs met, it’s making me feel really sad and bad about myself,” she shared on the podcast. “I wasn’t able to pinpoint it [at the time] because I wasn’t able to admit or realize that it could be my relationship. … It’s just a really hard thing to come to terms with.”

Although the decision was difficult, Katie said she feels “separating was the best option and the best decision for myself and really for the both of us.”

“We had both changed and grown apart, and [I realized] that maybe this marriage wasn’t the healthiest thing for us,” Katie explained. “I felt like I was just dying inside,” she added, and admitted she was “losing sleep” over worrying about the marriage before she filed for divorce.

Tom later assured he and Katie were still quite close in July. “Yes, it was very painful, no one loves getting divorced. But I think we might be some of the best divorcees ever,” he told Entertainment Tonight. “We still have an incredible friendship.”