If there’s anyone who can relate to self-declared virgin Colton Underwood, it’s Ashley Iaconetti. The Bachelor in Paradise alum has famously spoken out about waiting for the right guy, opening up about her lack of experience on Chris Soules‘ season of The Bachelor and even writing an article for the dating app Hinge about dating as a virgin. Needless to say, she gets it — not just what it’s like to be a virgin while dating in your mid and late 20s, but also what it’s like to talk about it on a national stage. That’s why she’s pretty much the perfect person to give the newly announced star of The Bachelor, 26, a little advice on the subject. 

Though Colton has already started cracking jokes about what will go on in the Fantasy Suites during Season 23, Ashley cautions him against actually losing his V-card during filming. “He should definitely wait until he gets engaged,” the 30-year-old tells Life & Style. “Make sure that you are committed to somebody and you’ve let the Bachelor bubble [break] before making a decision like that.” 

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It’s not bad advice, especially for a man who’s been so open about waiting for the “right heart.”

“It sounds a little cheesy,” he told Entertainment Tonight back in July. “I’m waiting for someone to match my intensity, someone that’s going to be into me as much as I am into them, somebody that I am so madly in love with and that I can share that special moment with. That’s what I’m waiting for and that’s what I’m looking forward to.”

When you’re on the show, it’s easy to get caught up in all the romance of incredible, international dates and your first chance to be alone with someone. But Ashley thinks it’s better to make sure that things are real and your partner is there for the “right reasons” once the camera stops rolling before taking that plunge. 

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And she’s got a little extra piece of advice, too: “You don’t want to talk about your virginity every time they ask you about it,” she recommends. While Bachelor Nation might be interested in learning about Colton’s sexual history — or lack thereof — the brunette beauty just hopes that producers don’t “make it seem like he’s finding someone to lose his virginity to instead of finding his wife.”