Last night, Becca Kufrin became one more on a long list of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette winners. But unfortunately, scoring the final spot on a season doesn’t guarantee you a lifetime of love — or even that coveted Neil Lane engagement ring. In fact, plenty of the shows’ winners didn’t manage to score a proposal at all. Though there are definitely some Bachelor Nation couples still together (and almost all of those success stories are from The Bachelorette, just FYI), most fall apart. But that doesn’t mean that the winners’ stories are over. Nope, for most of them, things are just getting started as they make appearances on Bachelor in Paradise, TV couples’ counseling shows, and, of course, Instagram #ads.

But they also go on to get married, have kids, and start some awesome businesses, too. It’s not all about that #sponcon life, after all. Although, for some, it really is about finding true love — just not always with the Bachelor or Bachelorette. Want to see what the Bachelor Nation winners from over the years have been up to since their seasons? Scroll down to check them out in the gallery below.