It’s been almost a month since Kaitlyn Bristowe and Shawn Booth revealed that they had split after three years together and now the former Bachelorette star is revealing what actually happened between the two of them.

“It’s been a really hard few months now. I really did think we’d get through it,” the reality star candidly told her Off The Vine listeners.

On a recent trip to Canada, the two realized that they were at a “crossroads” and at that moment it was the end of their love story. What was the final straw? Kaitlyn said she and Shawn realized “there were some important fundamental values that weren’t lining up” and there were “some things we’d probably never see eye-to-eye on.” She figured it would be best for both of them to walk away and still cherish the “beautiful moments” they created together than stay together.

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The reality star confessed, “I want to reiterate to people, what you saw on social media was real and what we had was real love. But when it comes to roadblocks, and those fundamental values and again, getting through things together, I just don’t think we were on the same page — and it’s painful to admit that.” She continued, “But you need that foundation and you need that partnership if it’s going to last forever.”

Not only did the breakup obviously affect the 33-year-old, but she was nervous that she was letting Bachelor Nation down as well. While choking up, she said, “A part of me always felt like I was disappointing people with this breakup and my heart just aches.” Kaitlyn, we are here for you, girl!

The big question is what is going to happen with their dog, Tucker? Will they share custody of him? For now, it seems like Tucker will remain with Shawn, but Kaitlyn insists she “loves that dog so much” and she “will still see him.”

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Kaitlyn wanted to make sure her fans weren’t in the dark about their split and says she hasn’t been ready to talk about it until now because she’s still grieving. “I know that there are so many bright days ahead and, in a weird way, as much I was dreading releasing that statement and accepting it was the end, it has let me close the door on that thought of forever and start envisioning my new future ahead, which I am excited about.”

She continued, “I hope from all of this I can choose to look forward and not in the rearview mirror at what could have been and what could have been different. I just hope, through this time, I can help other women who might be going through a hard time, men too, knowing there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And you always have to choose the right path for you and for your own happiness even if that means battling heartbreak or hard times.”

The podcast didn’t end on a sour note though. Kaitlyn insisted that “it’s a bump in the road” and she “will find happiness.” Keep your head up, Kaitlyn!

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