It's been nearly one year since Ben Higgins and Lauren Bushnell called off their engagement, but the former Bachelor is still having a hard time coping with the breakup. Ben recently competed The Bachelor Winter Games, where he struggled to connect with anyone on the show. In the Feb. 20 episode, he finally broke down and revealed that he's still broken from the split.
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“It did affect the way I interacted with women [on the show] and it does that in real life,” he said. “Coming off of a breakup, it’s smart to take time to process through things but also to make sure you do know what you’re looking for." So what actually went wrong between the couple if he had so much love for her? Read on to find out.
So, what really happened between Ben and Lauren B.?
Last May, the couple announced their split but provided very little details as to why they decided to end their engagement. "It is with heavy hearts that we announce our decision to go our separate ways. We feel fortunate for the time we had together, and will remain friends with much love and respect for one another," their statement read. "We wish nothing but the best for each other, and ask for your support and understanding at this time."
However, just a few months, later Lauren, 27, went on to blame reality television, specifically their spin-off series Ben and Lauren: Happily Ever After?, for their failed relationship. "I don't think it was the best idea," Lauren told Life & Style exclusively. "I just don't think I'm made for TV. It's hard to focus on a situation when there's a bunch of people around."
More recently, Ben, 29, admitted he needed to stop playing the victim and work on his reactions to things. "When I first started dating Lauren, when started having a very serious relationship and I was trying to share everything with her, and she was sharing everything with me, my reactions were so bad because it wasn't what I expected or it wasn't what I was used to," he told Entertainment Tonight. "I'm an only child, so I have routines and consistencies in my life that for anyone else in my life to come in change that — for me, I was holding on to way too close. So, I have to become less reactionary and I'm too sensitive… I doubt all the time in the back of my head."
Before their split, Life & Style reported that Ben and Lauren were struggling to agree on major life decisions. “Ben was constantly trying to make Lauren love life in Colorado, and Lauren couldn’t stand it," an insider shared. "She missed LA and wanted to move back, but knew that wasn’t an option.”
Was Ben's ex JoJo Fletcher also to blame?
Ben, Lauren, JoJo, and JoJo’s fiancé Jordan Rodgers.
Fans of the ABC series will remember that Ben infamously told both Lauren and future Bachelorette JoJo that he was falling in love. And while he ultimately chose Lauren in the end, that double L bomb definitely added tension to their relationship long after the finale.
“I don’t think I’ve ever talked about how hurtful that was,” Lauren told People. “I always try to be really strong because I wanted to move forward from it. But because I wanted to move forward from it, I don’t think I ever really opened up about how hard that was just in terms of, like, I wanted to make that decision to get engaged one time in my life and I felt like I wasn’t told everything that had happened.” So, essentially, JoJo is partially to blame.
Where do Ben and Lauren stand today?
Unfortunately, the former couple is currently not on the best of terms post-split. “There’s no communication,” Ben told Life & Style last October. “When there is [communication], it’s not anything more than, ‘Hey, can you send this to the house?’ or, ‘Hey, I forgot this, can you help me out with my password here?’"
Lauren agreed, adding, "We don't chit-chat all the time or talk every day, I think that would be difficult to move forward if that's how we were approaching it but we still check in on each other." And move on she has. Lauren is currently dating new boyfriend Devin Antin. As for Ben, he reportedly has a girlfriend named Lindsey Duke — although the couple has not gone public.
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