Toms! Slade! See the List of Most Hated Hubbies and Lovers in ‘Housewives’ History

Brooks Ayers

He thankfully and technically never became a house husband, but Brooks caused absolute havoc during his relationship with The Real Housewives of Orange County star Vicki Gunvalson.

They started dating in 2011 and their relationship crumbled four years later after Brooks got tangled in his web of lies, like falsely claiming he had cancer.

Vicki’s costars profusely begged her to open her eyes and see that Brooks was a con artist, but she remained blind to love for years.

Tom Girardi

Tom may have won over the RHOBH cast and fans during his marriage with Erika Jayne, but quickly became one of the most hated hubbies after he was indicted on multiple counts for allegedly stealing from the victims’ families of a 2018 plane crash.

Erika filed for divorce from Tom ​amid their legal woes.

Louie ‘Luis’ Ruelas

Luis and Teresa Guidice’s whirlwind relationship was shown on RHONJ, and he stirred up a ton of drama in just two seasons.

He first entered a feud with Joe and Melissa Gorga in Teresa’s honor, which resulted in his in-laws skipping their August 2022 wedding. Luis dropped a bomb during the end of season 13 when he claimed he hired a private investigator named Bo Dietl to investigate the lives of the RHONJ cast members.

“I’m not talking, like, gossip,” he said during the season 14 finale. “Like, Bo Dietl, who’s, like, one of the most famous private investigators in the country, one of my best friends, brought me information on each person in this group. There’s so much more.”

However, Luis later claimed he lied about hiring a private investigator after a “stressful” season.

Michael Darby

Ashley Darby’s marriage to Michael was so toxic that the toxins spilled into the Real Housewives of Potomac cast. Not only was the restauranter accused of sexual misconduct by a staff member on the Bravo production team, but he was caught in a handful of cheating allegations before they split in April 2022 after nearly eight years of marriage.

Slade Smiley

Most people know Slade Smiley in connection with his current and long-time girlfriend, Real Housewives of Orange County alum Gretchen Rossi. But it turns out that Slade actually played the field and dated a few other RHOC stars early on, including Jo De La Rosa and Lauri Waring. But aside from his serial dating tendencies, he’s also been known to say some pretty ungentlemanly things without a second thought — including calling RHOC co-star Vicki Gunvalson “Miss Piggy” in front of the entire cast.

Jim Bellino

RHOC alum Alexis Bellino filed for divorce from husband, Jim Bellino, in 2018, but once she did, co-stars Tamra Judge and Shannon Beador wasted no time at all speaking out about him on a podcast. “Crusty” and “shady” were some of their choice words, which, TBH, didn’t really seem unwarranted after he decided to sue the two OC ladies for $1 million over the comments.

Mario Singer

One of the most recognizable Real Housewives of New York ladies is Ramona Singer, who was always pretty vocal about how incredible her 20-year marriage to Mario Singer was… basically every episode there, for a while. But when he was spotted out with his 37-year-old mistress, Ramona’s picture perfect marriage ended up in divorce. But Mario got his, when he caught his mistress cheating on him after putting her up in a swanky Florida pad. Looks like Ramona is truly winning here!

Simon van Kempen

RHONY eccentrics Alex McCord and her husband, Simon van Kempen, only did the show for three seasons, but boy, did they leave an impression on us. Simon in particular was probably more dramatic than any Housewife he shared the spotlight with, even his own. “”You’d have viewers…saying, ‘Why is he always there and barging in?'” Simon said of his time on the show. After Alex was given the boot from the show in 2011, the couple relocated to Australia.

Simon Barney

“He doesn’t like me,” Tamra Barney once tearfully spoke of husband Simon Barney, who frequently yelled at the RHOC star on camera, criticizing everything from her clothes to her friends to her parenting skills. But when they finally filed for divorce in 2010, it was Simon who accused Tamra of being “verbally abusive” and committing “acts of disloyalty and adultery.” She’s since remarried and goes by Tamra Judge.

Jim Marchese

RHONJ star Amber Marchese‘s husband, Jim Marchese, has a history of f–ked up behavior, and it seems to have continued into 2018. On a crazy episode of Marriage Boot Camp, Jim criticized his wife’s sexual technique and told her he’d be bedding “a 22-year-old” as soon as their kids were grown. Gross. Jim was later arrested for domestic violence after allegedly grabbing Amber by the throat on an airplane, though she denied the charges. He most recently went on a homophobic Twitter spree, which even prompted Bravo’s Andy Cohen to give his two cents on Jim and his BS.

Josh Taekman

He was respectful and sweet to his female pals on Real Housewives of New York, yet in scenes with his own wife, Kristen, Josh Taekman ranged from dismissive to downright mean. Things got even worse for the dude in 2015, when a hack of cheaters’ website Ashley Madison revealed that he was a client (screen name: Mr. Big NYC). Yikes. Josh of course claimed he’d joined as a “joke,” but few bought that excuse. Except Kristen, that is… they’re still together.

David Beador

You really gotta hand it to RHOC star Shannon Beador. Her ex-husband, David Beador, cheated on her with a younger woman and fell in love — but Shannon made it out of the divorce with her fierceness intact. Even though the couple feuded over child custody and drinking habits, Shannon seems to have come out on top, with her impressive weight loss and her rekindled friendship with co-star Tamra Judge.

Tom D’Agostino

Countess Luann de Lesseps’ marriage to Tom D’Agostino only lasted seven months — but many fans and friends think she gave him too much of a chance. During their whirlwind romance, Luann’s RHONY pals tried to warn her about his wandering ways. But Luann wed him anyway… and it took a bit of literal bad news for her to finally see the light. “Tom went out [with] an old girlfriend,” Luann says. “I found out about it…in the press.”

Joe Giudice

This list would truly not be complete without Joe Giudice. Some husbands give their wives diamonds, but Juicy Joe gave Teresa Giudice a rap sheet instead. Even though he insisted that his wife never “really had a part…in my businesses,” the RHONJ diva wound up going down with her hubby on multiple counts of fraud. She spent a year in jail as a result, while Joe has been serving time since 2016. He also wasn’t exactly a model spouse before he went away for his 41-month sentence, having been filmed calling Tre the C-word during a phone chat a few seasons ago.