We know you’re asking: are Kaitlyn and Shawn still together? What about Rachel and Bryan? And what about the rest of The Bachelor casts and its spin-offs? For as romantic as ABC’s reality shows The Bachelor and The Bachelorette are, their love stories tend to burn hot then flame out fast. Nearly three dozen seasons have aired in the franchise, but only a few couples are still together — and the vast majority are Bachelorette couples. It’s almost as if it’s folly to expect people to form lasting relationships over the span of two months in a high-stress, highly-produced, all-televised environment. (Yeah, we don’t get it either.)

The Bachelor, you see, hasn’t featured a successful love story in years. Yeah, Arie Luyendyk Jr. and Lauren Burnham are still together, but he originally proposed to Becca Kufrin, and look at how that turned out. Props to Bachelor No. 21 Nick Viall for trying, though — he attempted to find love on his season of The Bachelor, two seasons of The Bachelorette, and during one Bachelor in Paradise stint, all of which ended poorly. In one of the most unsurprising splits in Bachelor Nation, Nick released a joint statement with Vanessa Grimaldi stating they were “saddened” that they didn’t get the “fairytale ending” they’d hoped for.

Not only did Nick and Vanessa’s happily ever after get cut short, but The Bachelor Winter Games couple Ashley Iaconetti and Kevin Wendt couldn’t make their love last either. They officially called it quits in March 2018 because of the difficulties that came with a long distance relationship. While there are reportedly no hard feelings between the pair, a source told Entertainment Tonight, “It was a little weird to have to figure out a long-term plan so soon. Ashley and Kevin were both really into each other, they just weren’t sure if it was a forever thing. And it’s hard to date long distance like that.” Hmm, did Jared Haibon have something to do with that? It sure seems that way!

Still, as hopeless romantics, we’re celebrating the happy endings below…while we can, anyway! Scroll down to learn more about the ones who’ve made it work.

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