By the simple nature of how reality stars come into our lives, it’s easy for us to get swept up in their stories and feel especially connected to them. That can make it extra hard (for fans) when their beloved celebrities go through breakups. It’s even worse when those couples are from The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, or Bachelor in Paradise, because all we want, from the second we meet them, is for those stars to find love.
Amanda and Josh defied the odds when they got engaged on BIP, despite literally EVERYONE trying to stop it. Unfortunately, it didn’t take long after leaving Mexico for Amanda to realize her friends were right about Josh. “It’s hard for me to even talk about without crying,” she told E!after their split. “I think he knew he was going to date me, so I think he kind of pretended to be exactly what he knew I wanted.” Unfortunately, she “chose to ignore” the “red flags,” which lead to a split after the show.
Before Evan Bass, Kirk Dewindt was the man Carly thought she would marry. The duo hit it off on Season 2 of BIP, and they seemed as strong as Jade and Tanner Tolbert did. That is, until Kirk totally blindsided Carly and dumped her on the very last day when she was expecting a proposal. Thank goodness she found her soulmate one year later!
Carly and Evan had a rocky road to love, with Carly being disinterested pretty much the whole time Evan was trying to court her. Luckily, he won her over, and they have since gotten married and had a baby together! Dreams do come true!
Poor Amanda just can’t seem to pick right! Again, people warned her about Robby, but she chose to date him anyway. Unfortunately, the couple split before the reunion, and Amanda revealed that someone sent her pics of Robby getting cozy with another woman at a club! Even on Season 5 of BIP, Robby maintained that he didn’t cheat, but we’re glad Amanda isn’t with him anymore anyway.
Remember how Nick Viall tried to warn Amanda not to date Josh? That’s because he knew Josh from Andi Dorfman’s season of The Bachelorette, and she chose Josh over him. The couple ended up splitting, and Andi was so upset that she shaded him hard in her book. Along with saying he called her “selfish” for wanting to work, she also claimed he “often behaved like an emotional abuser. If I talked to another man, I was a ‘whore.’ If I disagreed, I was ‘argumentative.’ If I defied him, I was a (expletive).'” Yikes.
Before you start to panic: they got back together! But Kevin and Astrid gave us quite a fright at the end of BIP Season 5! Despite being the strongest couple all season, Kevin got cold feet on the very last day, and they left alone in tears. Luckily, Kevin quickly called Astrid back, they made up, and now they’re still madly in love! Never do that to us again, guys!
Despite the rocky start (with Ben telling both Lauren AND JoJo he loved them) these two seemed solid. They even had their own (pretty cringey) reality show! Sadly, they split after a year and a half long engagement. Even when Ben appeared on Winter Games in 2018, he wasn’t over it. “My fear is not entering into a relationship,” Ben said through tears while sending himself home. “My fear is not [of] pursuing somebody. My fear is that if I was to be broken again, I’m not full enough right now to recover from that.”
This may have been the hardest breakup to watch EVER, and every painstaking second was aired. When Becca came to visit with Arie on one of the couples weekends after filming, he admitted that he couldn’t stop thinking about runner-up Lauren, and wanted to see if there was still a future with her. Becca was FUMING, and if she didn’t end up with Garrett Yrigoyen we would probably still hate Arie for doing it.
While we were pissed when Arie first did this, he and Lauren have lowkey won us over. She was thrilled when he proposed, and they announced in November that they have a little one on the way ahead of their wedding in January.
Do y’all remember one of the most dramatic After the Final Rose specials ever? Courtney and Ben got engaged on the finale, but then Ben pretty much dumped her before the reunion and was rumored to have cheated on her (which he has always denied). She came out and said she had no idea where they stood, but then he came out and said they were happy and engaged? Still, after 9 months together, they called it quits and no one was shocked.
Jake and Vienna got engaged despite warnings from Jake’s family, but when they split, it was so dramatic that Vienna moved out of the house while he was gone, went to the tabloids, and Chris Harrison hosted a special to get everything out in the open. Vienna said things went “straight downhill” after the first month. She accused him of “emotional abuse,” and called him a “fame whore.” Afterward, Jake said he was “disgusted” with her and said she was “having flings with other men.” Sooo messy.
They don’t call it “pulling a Mesnick” for nothing! Jason proposed to Melissa on the Bachelor finale, and then decided he was still in love with his runner-up Molly. He dumped Melissa on TV, and she was utterly crushed.
While Melissa was devastated and humiliated at the time, she went on to marry salesman Tye Strickland in 2009, and they still seem head-over-heels for each other nearly a decade later. Plus, they have three beautiful kids together!
We were shocked when these two weirdos captured our hearts by falling in love and getting engaged on BIP. Despite their rocky road, fans actually thought their oddball romance could work for the long haul. That is, until rumors surfaced that Jenna was cheating on Jordan, then her lawyer accused Jordan of faking the whole thing. The whole thing was very juicy, but totally broke our hearts.
Kamil came into BIP Season 5 pretty late, but he still seemed to hit it off quickly with Annaliese, who had already kissed several frogs with no luck. He didn’t propose, but they left together. Then, after she thought everything was okay and going great, he dumped her on the reunion show and totally blindsided her. Poor thing!
Another temporary breakup! Kendall had a hard time committing to Joe on BIP; she also kissed Leo Dottavio and John Graham. Finally, she realized Joe was the one she wanted… but then she got weird before the finale and they both broke up and left. Quickly she realized her mistake, and rushed to Chicago to win him back! They’ve been together ever since, but we would be lying if we said we didn’t shed some tears during their brief breakup.
We honestly thought Shawn and Kait would be together forever. Sure, they still had no wedding date set three years after the finale, but they still seemed in love and constantly shut down split rumors… until they were true on October 2018. The couple called it quits for good, and we wept big ol’ ugly tears.
It felt like Nick was crazy about Vanessa from the moment he met her. Just a few episodes in, she threatened to leave and he freaked out. Then, when they were discussing their after-bach life before the finale, it sounded like he already picked her over Raven. Sadly, they didn’t even stay together for a year after.
Tia and Colton might just be the most on-again, off again couple in the franchise (except for Ashley and Jared). They started dating before Colton went on Becca’s season of The Bachelorette, and Tia’s return to the show contributed to Becca dumping him. Then, on BIP, he couldn’t commit and eventually dumped her and became The Bachelor. Luckily, Tia is done waiting for him and has since moved on with another guy!
It didn’t take long for Peter to become a fan fave on Rachel’s season. Fans thought for sure he was going to win. But right at the end, he told Rachel he wasn’t sure if he was ready to propose, and to her, that was a dealbreaker. They both sobbed… Rachel so hard that she left some false lashes on the floor!
Rachel went on to choose Bryan. Because of the dramatic split from Peter, many fans thought he was her second choice. But the joke is on them, because over a year late they’re still so happy together! Take that, haters.
Every Bachelor fan knows Ashely’s traumatic history with the franchise. She was madly in love with Jared Haibon from the day she met him, and he could never commit. Finally, she met Kevin (aka Canadian Jared) on Winter Games, and the two hit it off and won! However, they soon split, and Kevin has alleged that Ashley cheated on him with Jared.
Despite three years of unrequited love, Jared finally realized he was in love with Ashley after seeing her with Kevin. He ended up proposing to her on the beach in Mexico in 2018… right in front of her ex Kevin. Awkward!